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Testimonials about Tom McSheehy MSW, LSW

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“The biggest thing for me about Tom is his passion and energy for this cause…”

What Makes In Focus Unique?

“At first I was a little hesitant to try it because of the time involved, but then I found that it didn’t take much time and I saw immediate results..”

How Does In Focus Impact the Work of School Counselors?

“It’s had a tremendous impact…..our kids are getting preventative support which frees up my time for kids that need more support…”

In Focus NBC Video

“Helping students to understand that emotions are a very normal thing…how we respond to those feelings have such an impact of what might happen next.”

“My love of teaching is renewed! This workshop changed my teaching and my life. I was so touched and would highly recommend this workshop to all. Thank you for changing my life forever.”

What Changes Have You Seen in Your Students in Response to In Focus?

“This year, using the InFocus books, I do not have reactions from students after recess…they have gotten that training about how to calm themselves down, how to deal with emotions, and how to deal with conflict.”

How Has In Focus Impacted You as an Educator?

“Having In Focus as our daily curriculum has made me hopeful and it’s been inspiring.”

What Makes In Focus Unique?

How Does In Focus Impact the Work of School Counselors?

In Focus NBC Video

“At first I was a little hesitant to try it because of the time involved, but then I found that it didn’t take much time and I saw immediate results..”

“It’s had a tremendous impact…..our kids are getting preventative support which frees up my time for kids that need more support…”

“Helping students to understand that emotions are a very normal thing…how we respond to those feelings have such an impact of what might happen next.”

“My love of teaching is renewed! This workshop changed my teaching and my life. I was so touched and would highly recommend this workshop to all. Thank you for changing my life forever.”

What Changes Have You Seen in Your Students in Response to In Focus?

How Has In Focus Impacted You as an Educator?

Testimonials about Tom McSheehy MSW, LSW

“This year, using the InFocus books, I do not have reactions from students after recess…they have gotten that training about how to calm themselves down, how to deal with emotions, and how to deal with conflict.”

“Having In Focus as our daily curriculum has made me hopeful and it’s been inspiring.”

“The biggest thing for me about Tom is his passion and energy for this cause…”

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“What an amazing-transformational weekend. This content is what is missing in the educational system. Please continue to do your work and thank you for what you’ve done! I will fight for this curriculum in our school and for our kids – it is so incredibly valuable.”

“This approach should be the cornerstone of the education system.”

“A renewal in my passion for teaching.  A life change in my personal and professional approach to emotions and situations.”

“I feel a better connection to my own social / emotional self. I know that I will be a much better teacher for having taken this course.”

“Your workshop provides the missing piece to have teachers and children become more fully human”.

“Can’t wait to start teaching In Focus when we go back in August!.”

“I left this workshop with an overwhelming feeling of hope for our future. I strongly believe that social and emotional learning is the missing piece in our educational system and I will now make it my mission to assure that the educational system addresses this critical component of student growth / development.”

“I left the workshop with a full heart, feeling inspired to support my students next year, as well as, to seek further healing in my own life. Thank you for creating a safe and wonderful space for me to learn and grow.”

“Thank-you for all of your work!  I really was moved, inspired, ignited, and emotionally recharged by your Social Emotional Learning Workshop this past weekend.  I feel that in so many ways the information that you shared with us fills in the missing pieces of education that I’ve been yearning for. Integrating a social / emotional learning component into our school day, would truly be the key to educating the “whole” child. Below is a list of my thinking around what I shall take with me from your workshop.”

“This work will enhance my teaching and the kids ability to learn – teaching FOCUS, calm, reflection, and respect for self and the learning community.  I believe this will have a huge impact on my classroom management and in creating a safe, thus ultimately more creative, theatre class!”

“This work is about creating balanced, functional human beings who will learn how to manage their emotions for a life time.  I observed and learned so much about my own self in the workshop that I totally recommend this workshop to all teachers!”

“I plan to read through your curriculum this summer and practice your “In Focus” curriculum throughout the school year with my theatre students.  I appreciate how you’ve broken down these skills into so many lessons that proceed in a systematic fashion – each with it’s own daily focus. I’ll let you know about our progress!”

“Tom, I can’t thank-you and Thom enough for your work.  I am truly inspired!”

“I learned that being a parent is not all about being a cheerleader, but showing your true emotions and mirroring you child’s. I express my frustrations and vulnerabilities more and rather than increasing my child’s stress, it helps dissipates it, knowing that others feel like they do, and still flourish.” -T. S.

“We have learned that sitting with him in his feelings may be difficult and uncomfortable, but is the key to his learning to process them. -C.S and R.S.

“I am learning how to feel with him. It helps him feel safe during hard moments.” -K.V.

“I learned from Tom how important honesty and presence are in any relationship. I know now that speaking my own truth to others promotes healthy relationships–it honors others as well as myself.”  -M.D.

“I’m regaining confidence in my own parenting skills.”  -C.W.

“I learned to be more patient, more understanding of what triggers impulsive negative behavior.”  -L.O.

“I learned to try to meet her frustration with comfort instead of my own frustration.”  -M.O.

“I’m still learning about how to give space & to meet him where he is at.”  -S.J.

“Regaining confidence in my own parenting skills.”  -C.W.

“We learned that awareness of our state of mind when speaking with our child improves our ability to empathize and communicate effectively. We also learned that sitting with him in his feelings may be difficult and uncomfortable, but is the key to his learning to process them.”  -C.S and R.S.

“I am learning how to feel with him. It is so hard to let yourself experience feelings with your child when you yourself are overwhelmed with frustration. I have learned to feel the frustration with him and talk my own feelings through with him. It helps him feel safe during hard moments.”  -K.V.

“I learned from Tom how important honesty and presence are in any relationship. I know now that speaking my own truth to others promotes healthy relationships–it honors others as well as myself.”  -M.D.

What is one thing that you have learned from this experience that will stay with you the rest of your life?

“Feeling deeply and expressing deeply are gifts and strengths and we need to honor them in ourselves and our dear children.”  -T.S.

What qualities did Tom display that you appreciated?

“Empathy and strength. Curious and knowledgeable. Loving.”  -T.S.

“Calmness, understanding, patience He listened to everything we said, reflected on it, and thoughtfully responded during our follow-ups.” -L.L.

“Tom’s deep understanding of the feelings of a sensitive child combined with his play-therapy and parent follow up session are an extremely effective combination.”  -C.S. and R.S.

“Tom displays intuition, emotional connection, amazing modeling of breath and body awareness and ability to teach my son in a way Tom has fantastic empathy and desire to help.”  -C.W.

“Finding the right therapist is the key to success, and for us, that was Tom. Other methods and therapy experiences brought us nowhere near the success and results that Tom’s approach provided. Thanks to Tom, we have a much happier home and our son is having a much better year at school.”  -C.S. and R.S.

“Tom has an amazing ability to connect with people. He connected with my son in a way that no one else has been able to during his grief. Tom was kind, compassionate and so very patient.”  -K.V.

“I really appreciated Tom’s own sensitivity and perceptiveness–he really understood my highly-sensitive son and myself intuitively. Having that understanding was just so helpful, as all of his recommendations were right-on. I also appreciated his honesty and his extensive knowledge in his field–he knew just how to help us heal and grow stronger as a family.”  -M.B.

What do you value about Tom’s therapeutic approach?

“It was unlike anything I have ever done before, and it resonated not just through my parenting but how I show up as an adult and a partner.”

“I want to thank Tom for inviting me into the room to actively participate in the play-therapy process. Tom modeled and mirrored my child, as much as he did me, which was a huge learning process that was deep, expressive and nurturing, and at times really fun.”  -T.S.

What is the biggest shift that you have noticed in your child?

“My daughter has almost completely stopped having tantrums. She is verbalizes her feelings more easily.” -L.O. and M.O.

“My son has developed better coping skills. He has gained tools that help him deal with sadness, frustration and anxiety.”  -K.V

“My son has hope now & has tapped in to some of his joy again and he is learning tools to manage the world around him & inside of himself.” -S.J.

“Tom deepened and strengthened my connection to my daughter, helped heal some wounds.”  -C.W.

“My son has hope now & has tapped in to some of his joy again and he is learning tools to manage the world around him & inside of himself.”  -S.J.

“I can’t imagine a better therapist for our daughter, he adjusts to her needs every session.”  -T.O.

“I’m still learning about how to give space & to meet him where he is at.” -S.J.

“My daughter is beginning to learn to deal with her learning disabilities constructively.”  -M.O.

“My son has become much more independent and has overcome some major fears since we started seeing Tom. My son’s confidence in himself has improved so much!”  -M.B

“He knows better how to take care of himself -speak up, retreat, take breaks, recognize and celebrate his strengths.”  -T. S.

Any other comments that you would like to express about your therapeutic experience?

“He immediately formed a connection with my daughter. She looked forward to each visit with “Mr. Tom”. She truly enjoyed her sessions. I think she knew that Tom helped us unlock a door so that we could make our bond more secure. I feel like she knew that when Tom was in the room there was a deeper understanding and connection between her and I.”  -L.L.

“Very easy plans that students loved to engage with and think about. The layout of the lessons are fabulous. The kiddos fully enjoyed the lessons and asked for them.”

“It helped me understand my feelings and take time to notice what I am feeling. It gave my class a chance to express how they are feeling and how the brain works. We got more work done with deeper understanding because they had a chance to express themselves and get ready for the day.”

“Using the In Focus book gave me a way into the emotional lives of my students that up to that point I could barely comprehend. Even though I only used it for half a year I saw students being able to calm themselves and address their needs in ways that would have been incomprehensible previously. In what seemed like an impossible situation, In Focus showed me where I could focus my energies to create a positive change in the lives of young people.”

“This program helped me know how to better approach my students and to help them become aware. This program also helped me as a teacher become aware of my emotions and how I project them onto my students. I noticed that the more honest I was with my students about my emotions the more honest they were with me. Being open and honest with my students helped me build deeper relationships.”

“The In Focus book has opened up an entire new level of understanding for me in my career. The idea of social/emotional learning was not new to me, but I always understood it in the abstract. This book gave me and my students concrete tools to use and explained why and how they worked. Not only has it allowed me to work better with emotionally struggling students, it’s allowed me to better understand myself and my own reactions in the classroom and out. It is a vital tool in the 21st century classroom.”

“It taught them that all feelings are valuable and where in the body they feel it. It also taught them how to deal with their feelings and gave them coping strategies.”

“I was more aware of my students’ and my personal needs. We took more brain breaks and worked on focus quite a bit.”

“In Focus’ short and thoughtful lessons made it easy to meet the social and emotional needs of my students. The students looked forward to the lessons and learned a framework to help them self-soothe.” -Matt. N. 5th Grade Teacher

“The In Focus book has opened up an entire new level of understanding for me in my career. The idea of social/emotional learning was not new to me, but I always understood it in the abstract. This book gave me and my students concrete tools to use and explained why and how they worked. Not only has it allowed me to work better with emotionally struggling students, it’s allowed me to better understand myself and my own reactions in the classroom and out. It is a vital tool in the 21st century classroom.”

“It taught them that all feelings are valuable and where in the body they feel it. It also taught them how to deal with their feelings and gave them coping strategies.”

“In Focus’ short and thoughtful lessons made it easy to meet the social and emotional needs of my students. The students looked forward to the lessons and learned a framework to help them self-soothe.” -Matt. N. 5th Grade Teacher

“It provided them with methods in handling emotions and taught them the importance of working together as a team.” -Marla B., Kindergarten Teacher

“The kids LOVED sitting in a circle and “checking in” They begged for “checking in” just a comment or two about how they were feeling at that moment and a short reason why if they knew.”  -Carol M.

“It gave them a tool to refer to when the going gets rough. The strategies were accessible for all, including adults.”  – Michelle Ludwig 4th grade teacher

“It has helped my students to have some important conversations about their emotions and reactions. They have been given some practical strategies for dealing with their emotions.”  -Sarah Johnson, Lincoln Elementary, Teacher

“What an amazing-transformational weekend. This content is what is missing in the educational system. Please continue to do your work and thank you for what you’ve done! I will fight for this curriculum in our school and for our kids – it is so incredibly valuable.”

“This approach should be the cornerstone of the education system.”

“A renewal in my passion for teaching.  A life change in my personal and professional approach to emotions and situations.”

“I feel a better connection to my own social / emotional self. I know that I will be a much better teacher for having taken this course.”

“Your workshop provides the missing piece to have teachers and children become more fully human”.

“Can’t wait to start teaching In Focus when we go back in August!.”

“I left this workshop with an overwhelming feeling of hope for our future. I strongly believe that social and emotional learning is the missing piece in our educational system and I will now make it my mission to assure that the educational system addresses this critical component of student growth / development.”

“I left the workshop with a full heart, feeling inspired to support my students next year, as well as, to seek further healing in my own life. Thank you for creating a safe and wonderful space for me to learn and grow.”

“Thank-you for all of your work!  I really was moved, inspired, ignited, and emotionally recharged by your Social Emotional Learning Workshop this past weekend.  I feel that in so many ways the information that you shared with us fills in the missing pieces of education that I’ve been yearning for. Integrating a social / emotional learning component into our school day, would truly be the key to educating the “whole” child. Below is a list of my thinking around what I shall take with me from your workshop.”

“This work will enhance my teaching and the kids ability to learn – teaching FOCUS, calm, reflection, and respect for self and the learning community.  I believe this will have a huge impact on my classroom management and in creating a safe, thus ultimately more creative, theatre class!”

“This work is about creating balanced, functional human beings who will learn how to manage their emotions for a life time.  I observed and learned so much about my own self in the workshop that I totally recommend this workshop to all teachers!”

“I plan to read through your curriculum this summer and practice your “In Focus” curriculum throughout the school year with my theatre students.  I appreciate how you’ve broken down these skills into so many lessons that proceed in a systematic fashion – each with it’s own daily focus. I’ll let you know about our progress!”

“Tom, I can’t thank-you and Thom enough for your work.  I am truly inspired!”

“I learned that being a parent is not all about being a cheerleader, but showing your true emotions and mirroring you child’s. I express my frustrations and vulnerabilities more and rather than increasing my child’s stress, it helps dissipates it, knowing that others feel like they do, and still flourish.” -T. S.

“We have learned that sitting with him in his feelings may be difficult and uncomfortable, but is the key to his learning to process them. -C.S and R.S.

“I am learning how to feel with him. It helps him feel safe during hard moments.” -K.V.

“I learned from Tom how important honesty and presence are in any relationship. I know now that speaking my own truth to others promotes healthy relationships–it honors others as well as myself.”  -M.D.

“I’m regaining confidence in my own parenting skills.”  -C.W.

“I learned to be more patient, more understanding of what triggers impulsive negative behavior.”  -L.O.

“I learned to try to meet her frustration with comfort instead of my own frustration.”  -M.O.

“I’m still learning about how to give space & to meet him where he is at.”  -S.J.

“Regaining confidence in my own parenting skills.”  -C.W.

“We learned that awareness of our state of mind when speaking with our child improves our ability to empathize and communicate effectively. We also learned that sitting with him in his feelings may be difficult and uncomfortable, but is the key to his learning to process them.”  -C.S and R.S.

“I am learning how to feel with him. It is so hard to let yourself experience feelings with your child when you yourself are overwhelmed with frustration. I have learned to feel the frustration with him and talk my own feelings through with him. It helps him feel safe during hard moments.”  -K.V.

“I learned from Tom how important honesty and presence are in any relationship. I know now that speaking my own truth to others promotes healthy relationships–it honors others as well as myself.”  -M.D.

What is one thing that you have learned from this experience that will stay with you the rest of your life?

“Feeling deeply and expressing deeply are gifts and strengths and we need to honor them in ourselves and our dear children.”  -T.S.

What qualities did Tom display that you appreciated?

“Empathy and strength. Curious and knowledgeable. Loving.”  -T.S.

“Calmness, understanding, patience He listened to everything we said, reflected on it, and thoughtfully responded during our follow-ups.” -L.L.

“Tom’s deep understanding of the feelings of a sensitive child combined with his play-therapy and parent follow up session are an extremely effective combination.”  -C.S. and R.S.

“Tom displays intuition, emotional connection, amazing modeling of breath and body awareness and ability to teach my son in a way Tom has fantastic empathy and desire to help.”  -C.W.

“Finding the right therapist is the key to success, and for us, that was Tom. Other methods and therapy experiences brought us nowhere near the success and results that Tom’s approach provided. Thanks to Tom, we have a much happier home and our son is having a much better year at school.”  -C.S. and R.S.

“Tom has an amazing ability to connect with people. He connected with my son in a way that no one else has been able to during his grief. Tom was kind, compassionate and so very patient.”  -K.V.

“I really appreciated Tom’s own sensitivity and perceptiveness–he really understood my highly-sensitive son and myself intuitively. Having that understanding was just so helpful, as all of his recommendations were right-on. I also appreciated his honesty and his extensive knowledge in his field–he knew just how to help us heal and grow stronger as a family.”  -M.B.

What do you value about Tom’s therapeutic approach?

“It was unlike anything I have ever done before, and it resonated not just through my parenting but how I show up as an adult and a partner.”

“I want to thank Tom for inviting me into the room to actively participate in the play-therapy process. Tom modeled and mirrored my child, as much as he did me, which was a huge learning process that was deep, expressive and nurturing, and at times really fun.”  -T.S.

What is the biggest shift that you have noticed in your child?

“My daughter has almost completely stopped having tantrums. She is verbalizes her feelings more easily.” -L.O. and M.O.

“My son has developed better coping skills. He has gained tools that help him deal with sadness, frustration and anxiety.”  -K.V

“My son has hope now & has tapped in to some of his joy again and he is learning tools to manage the world around him & inside of himself.” -S.J.

“Tom deepened and strengthened my connection to my daughter, helped heal some wounds.”  -C.W.

“My son has hope now & has tapped in to some of his joy again and he is learning tools to manage the world around him & inside of himself.”  -S.J.

“I can’t imagine a better therapist for our daughter, he adjusts to her needs every session.”  -T.O.

“I’m still learning about how to give space & to meet him where he is at.” -S.J.

“My daughter is beginning to learn to deal with her learning disabilities constructively.”  -M.O.

“My son has become much more independent and has overcome some major fears since we started seeing Tom. My son’s confidence in himself has improved so much!”  -M.B

“He knows better how to take care of himself -speak up, retreat, take breaks, recognize and celebrate his strengths.”  -T. S.

Any other comments that you would like to express about your therapeutic experience?

“He immediately formed a connection with my daughter. She looked forward to each visit with “Mr. Tom”. She truly enjoyed her sessions. I think she knew that Tom helped us unlock a door so that we could make our bond more secure. I feel like she knew that when Tom was in the room there was a deeper understanding and connection between her and I.”  -L.L.

“Very easy plans that students loved to engage with and think about. The layout of the lessons are fabulous. The kiddos fully enjoyed the lessons and asked for them.”

“It helped me understand my feelings and take time to notice what I am feeling. It gave my class a chance to express how they are feeling and how the brain works. We got more work done with deeper understanding because they had a chance to express themselves and get ready for the day.”

“Using the In Focus book gave me a way into the emotional lives of my students that up to that point I could barely comprehend. Even though I only used it for half a year I saw students being able to calm themselves and address their needs in ways that would have been incomprehensible previously. In what seemed like an impossible situation, In Focus showed me where I could focus my energies to create a positive change in the lives of young people.”

“This program helped me know how to better approach my students and to help them become aware. This program also helped me as a teacher become aware of my emotions and how I project them onto my students. I noticed that the more honest I was with my students about my emotions the more honest they were with me. Being open and honest with my students helped me build deeper relationships.”

“The In Focus book has opened up an entire new level of understanding for me in my career. The idea of social/emotional learning was not new to me, but I always understood it in the abstract. This book gave me and my students concrete tools to use and explained why and how they worked. Not only has it allowed me to work better with emotionally struggling students, it’s allowed me to better understand myself and my own reactions in the classroom and out. It is a vital tool in the 21st century classroom.”

“It taught them that all feelings are valuable and where in the body they feel it. It also taught them how to deal with their feelings and gave them coping strategies.”

“I was more aware of my students’ and my personal needs. We took more brain breaks and worked on focus quite a bit.”

“In Focus’ short and thoughtful lessons made it easy to meet the social and emotional needs of my students. The students looked forward to the lessons and learned a framework to help them self-soothe.” -Matt. N. 5th Grade Teacher

“The In Focus book has opened up an entire new level of understanding for me in my career. The idea of social/emotional learning was not new to me, but I always understood it in the abstract. This book gave me and my students concrete tools to use and explained why and how they worked. Not only has it allowed me to work better with emotionally struggling students, it’s allowed me to better understand myself and my own reactions in the classroom and out. It is a vital tool in the 21st century classroom.”

“It taught them that all feelings are valuable and where in the body they feel it. It also taught them how to deal with their feelings and gave them coping strategies.”

“In Focus’ short and thoughtful lessons made it easy to meet the social and emotional needs of my students. The students looked forward to the lessons and learned a framework to help them self-soothe.” -Matt. N. 5th Grade Teacher

“It provided them with methods in handling emotions and taught them the importance of working together as a team.” -Marla B., Kindergarten Teacher

“The kids LOVED sitting in a circle and “checking in” They begged for “checking in” just a comment or two about how they were feeling at that moment and a short reason why if they knew.”  -Carol M.

“It gave them a tool to refer to when the going gets rough. The strategies were accessible for all, including adults.”  – Michelle Ludwig 4th grade teacher

“It has helped my students to have some important conversations about their emotions and reactions. They have been given some practical strategies for dealing with their emotions.”  -Sarah Johnson, Lincoln Elementary, Teacher

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